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What a Cardinal Mother-to-Be is Teaching Me About Purpose and Mothering

What a Cardinal Mother-to-Be is Teaching Me About Purpose and Mothering

May 9, 2021

Last week, I spotted a cardinal sitting on a nest of twigs and branches on a tall shrub right outside my living room window. My son and I have been mesmerized by her as she makes her journey into motherhood. Cardi Bee, as we call her, has been teaching me a lot about maintaining a sense of purpose. She is very clear about hers. She’s single-mindedly focused on making sure that her eggs hatch, that they are protected, that they survive. She doesn’t seem deterred or distracted, not by spring storms or her own hunger, and not by the other birds, squirrels and occasional bunnies that criss-cross the yard. She doesn’t seem to receive support either; no other creature has come by, at least not during our waking hours.

Read the full essay on Medium.

We saw important social activism last year. Here’s how to maintain it in 2021.

We saw important social activism last year. Here’s how to maintain it in 2021.

January 4, 2021

When protests began in the wake of the deaths of George FloydAhmaud Arbery and Breonna Taylor, Daniela Bayon was ready to take action both on the streets and at her workplace. As a marketing manager for a global tech company,Bayon wanted to support her Black colleagues and organize companywide conversations about racism. “There was a mass awakening everywhere, including at work,” she said. “People kept asking: What can I do?”

Read the full essay at The Lily.

Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s Victory Holds Lessons for Organizing in Communities of Color

Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s Victory Holds Lessons for Organizing in Communities of Color

Dear WTSA Family,

Here is your 4 minute read of the day! I write about Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s victory in New York City’s primary and as we head towards the midterms, we must think about lessons for organizing and communicating with race at the center.

Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s Victory Holds Lessons for Organizing in Communities of Color

Like many people around the country, I have been elated by Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s stunning victory over ten-term Democratic incumbent, Joseph Crowley. Clearly, her win is a wake-up call to the Democratic Party and aspiring politicians about the power of Black and Brown candidates and voters. But, Ocasio-Cortez’s campaign is also a reminder to communities of color that we should be explicit in centering our own racial identities and articulating the ways in which systemic and generational racism affects us — whether we are running for elected office or calling for policy change in our neighborhoods.

To read more, click here.

We Too Sing America on Campus

We Too Sing America on Campus

Dear WTSA Family,

I had a wonderful visit to the University of Pittsburgh this week where I had the opportunity to meet with students, high school teachers, and administrators. Many thanks to the Alliance of South Asians in Pittsburgh and the programs within Pitt that invited me to campus.

We talked about how the themes in #WeTooSingAmerica foreshadowed today’s political environment, and how we can disrupt and build bridges in our communities to meet the “urgency of now”, in the words of MLK Jr.

For more, please see:…/activist-students-discuss-us-race-r…/

I continue to speak to teachers and students – and would love to be invited to your campus or school. Please reach out at

From Silos to Solidarity: Learning from 2017’s Resistance Movements

From Silos to Solidarity: Learning from 2017’s Resistance Movements

Dear WTSA Family,

As we begin another year of resistance, what can 2017’s movements teach us about solidarity practices? I wrote this essay on Medium, which might be useful for organizers, activists, and those supporting resistance movements. Please provide feedback about what I’ve missed here, and what your experiences have been around solidarity and resistance movements.

Here’s an excerpt:

The changing racial demographics of the United States and the pushback on the rights of communities of color demand that we transition from organizational silos to community-based solidarity. As we assess our resistance in 2017 and prepare for another year of fighting back inhumane policies, we should rely upon solidarity practice as an important strategy in the activist toolbox. But, we must also sharpen our solidarity work: we must move beyond race as the single and sole organizing force to bring communities together; we must work within our own communities to lovingly challenge biases as we proclaim unity with other movements; and we must ensure that we are not caught in a cycle of rapid response and emergency postures that end up harming our own people and organizations.

For more please visit: From Silos to Solidarity: Learning from 2017’s Resistance Movements

Reckoning with Trauma 16 Years After

Reckoning with Trauma 16 Years After

Published on Medium.



Dear WTSA Community: Each of us have our own experiences, insights and stories about 9/11. Many of you know that I’ve spent the bulk of my time in movement work focused on issues affecting South Asian, Muslim, Arab and Sikh communities in post 9/11 America. On the 16th anniversary of 9/11, I wrote a personal essay on the toll of trauma on activists and organizations. I’d love your feedback or thoughts if you have a moment.

Here’s an excerpt:

“I probably haven’t dealt adequately with the impact of September 11th on my own life. In the days that followed 9/11, I had sprung into action, and I’m not sure that I ever stopped. Over the following decade and a half, I have borne witness to a litany of crises targeting our communities. I am not the only one.”

For more, please visit:

Thank you in advance for reading and sharing.

Airlines Are Policing the Bodies and Behavior of Women-of-Color Passengers

Airlines Are Policing the Bodies and Behavior of Women-of-Color Passengers

Dear We Too Sing America community:

I have been angry and appalled by the more recent experiences that women of color passengers are having on airlines and airports across the nation, though this has been happening for quite some time, and I wrote an essay about it at The Nation Magazine:

“In a time of #MeToo testimonials and in the midst of national conversations about misogyny and sexual violence, it is not surprising that many women of color resonate with Anila Daultazai and Tamika Mallory. Their experiences sting because they remind us that women and girls of color face judgment, devaluation, invisibility, and physical violence in every sector, from schools to workplaces to encounters with the police. We can’t view what happened to Daulatzai and Mallory in a vacuum either. Both incidents are tinged with the same Islamophobia, anti-immigrant sentiment, and anti-blackness that we see in our country through government policies and in hateful rhetoric.”

For more, please visit:…/airlines-are-policing-the-bodi…/

Please read and share, and continue to call upon the airlines and airline industry to make systemic changes.

And the Winners Are…

And the Winners Are…

Dear We Too Sing America Community! In early March, when We Too Sing America arrived in paperback, I pledged to give away 10 books – one to an individual and one to an organization of their choice. My publisher, The New Press, matched that giveaway so I’m excited to announce that 20 individuals and 20 organizations are receiving autographed and free copies of the book! To ensure that the book has the broadest reach possible, I also picked winners from 20 different states.

185 people entered the giveaway which surprised and thrilled me – thank you to everyone who entered for your support and interest in the themes of We Too Sing America.

The winners are …

Philadelphia, Pennyslvania

Hajer Alfaham

Center for the Study of Ethnicity, Race, and Immigration at University of Pennsylvania

San Francisco, California

Ankita Rakhe

Bay Area Solidarity Summer

Austin, Texas

Sahil Solankee

Rice University Chao Center for Asian Studies (Houston)

Chicago Illinois

Priya Ghosh

Chicago Public Library

Seattle, Washington

Barb Chamberlain

YES Foundation of White Center

Alma, Michigan

Kate Blanchard

Alma College Dept of Religious Studies

Raleigh, North Carolina

Noor Abualhawa

Islamic Association of Raleigh

Denver, Colorado

Aditi Ramaswami

Asian Health Alliance of Colorado

Staten Island, New York

Catherine Ma

Kingsborough Community College Library, CUNY, Brooklyn, NY

Ridgefield, Connecticut

Neeta Pardanani Connally

Ridgefield Public Library

Fairfax, Virginia

Harmeet Kamboj

Asian and Pacific Islander Studies Program at the College of William and Mary

Potomac, Maryland

Aleena Durrani

Islamic Center of Maryland, Gaithersburg MD

Birmingham, Alabama

Edward Still

St. Alban’s Episcopal Church

Portland Oregon

Joseph Santos-Lyons

Asian Pacific American Network of Oregon

Washington DC

Maryum Saifee

Next Wave Muslim Initiative

St. Louis, Missouri

Purvi Patel

Washington University Center for Diversity and Inclusion

Albuquerque, New Mexico

Kay Bounkeua

New Mexico Asian Family Center

Louisville, Kentucky

Adelaide McComb

University of Louisville

Norman, Oklahoma

Amy Bradshaw

Norman Public Library

Princeton Junction, New Jersey

Brenda Deverell Cortez

Mercer County Library (Windsor, NJ)

CONGRATULATIONS! I’ll be emailing the winners soon with more details.

If you’d like to help get We Too Sing America to wider audiences, please contact me at

What Happens After November 8th?

What Happens After November 8th?

The news of the plot in Kansas to bomb an apartment complex and mosque where 120 Somali refugees live and work didn’t get much mainstream media attention – but it should have as it represents a growing threat targeting Muslim, Arab and South Asian communities. I wrote about how Islamophobia didn’t start with this election and how it won’t end with it at The Nation.

We can no longer turn a blind eye to domestic terrorist threats whose targets are communities of color, immigrants, and refugees, or pretend that the divisive policies and rhetoric implemented and used by political leaders has little influence on public opinions and actions. The Kansas plot should be our national wake-up call that defeating Donald Trump on Election Day will not wipe away the momentum of hatred and bigotry that has emerged during this political season.”

Read more here.


On the 4th Anniversary of the Oak Creek Massacre

On the 4th Anniversary of the Oak Creek Massacre

On August 5, 2016, we marked the fourth anniversary of the massacre in Oak Creek that killed six people and wounded many. The attack, committed by a man with ties to white supremacist organizations, occurred at the Sikh Temple of Wisconsin on a Sunday morning.  Local community members marked the 4th anniversary in Oak Creek with a 6K race/walk and services at the Sikh Temple of Wisconsin.  The youth group, which organized the anniversary event. asked me to provide remarks, which are below.


Credit: Lee Matz


Remarks On 4th Anniversary of Oak Creek Hate Violence (August 2016)

Let me start by sending my deepest gratitude to the group of young people who organized this community commemoration in Oak Creek along with Serve2Unite.

I am deeply humbled to be here this Saturday on the fourth anniversary of the hate violence at the Sikh Temple of Wisconsin. The youth group asked me to provide keynote remarks, but this will be  more of a love letter to the community in Oak Creek.

I know that we are also still absorbing Kamal Saini’s moving, powerful words who spoke before me. Even though I’m not related by blood to you, Kamal, and Harpreet, or to Amardeep, Pardeep, Palmeet, Prabhjot, Gurvinder, Kamal, Sarbjit, Harmeet, and Jasbir   – all who lost a parent four years ago – you are my brothers and sisters.

And even though I do not live here, Oak Creek has become a home to me.

And even though I am not a Sikh, the Sikh Temple of Wisconsin has become a place where I can find a sense of comfort, spiritual connection, and belonging.

I do not say any of this lightly. I say it, fully aware that those of us outside of Oak Creek on August 5, 2012, and who did not lose loved ones in the massacre at the gurdwara, can never fully grasp what this community has endured.

That is why we have a responsibility, a duty and obligation, to make sure that Americans do not forget what happened here four years ago.

That is why it is so important that we come together each August.

That is why it is critical for us to say their names again and again – the names of Sita Singh, Ranjit Singh, Suveg Singh, Paramjit Kaur, Prakash Singh, and Satwant Singh Kaleka.

That is why we must not forget to support Baba Punjab Singh, wounded four years ago and still in a coma a few miles from here.

Because in remembering, in uniting every August, in saying the names of those taken away, and in supporting the families who endured unbearable loss, we are standing firm in our commitment to prevent another calamity of gun and hate violence from tearing the fabric of our communities. We are standing firm in our own commitment to creating more humane, more inclusive, more safe, more loving communities all across our nation.

You – the Oak Creek community – have been living and embodying this message from the days right after the tragedy on August 5, 2012.

It was at the memorial service in the gymnasium of this very high school when the nation first realized the resilience and strength of this community – in the emotional words of the family members who lost loved ones, in the sincere promises of first responders including Mayor Scaffidi, Lieutenant Brian Murphy, Chief John Edwards, Lieutenant Sam Lenda, US Attorney James Santelle, and in the actions of Oak Creek residents like Mandeep Kaur, Rahul Dubey, Navi Gill, Simran Toor and so many others who supported from the sidelines without need for attention or credit, who cleaned the gurdwara in the days after the tragedy, who organized youth groups for the young people who were exposed to deep trauma in their own place of worship, who helped with immigration applications, who provide ongoing psychological support, who speak at schools about the Sikh faith, who build bridges with Jewish, Christian, and Muslim communities locally, and who help to put together these anniversary commemorations year after year.

In Oak Creek, ordinary people have heeded a call to action in the midst of tragedy in order to do remarkable and extraordinary things that continue to inspire me and so many others around the nation.

At the time of the Oak Creek tragedy four years ago, I was the director of a South Asian American civil rights organization in Washington, DC. We worked with people like Amardeep Singh and Gurjot Kaur of the Sikh Coalition, Jasjit Singh at SALDEF, Valarie Kaur of Groundswell, Puni Kalra and Jasvir Kaur Singh at the Sikh Healing Collective and many others to bring national attention to what had happened in Oak Creek, to press successfully for changes to how the FBI collects data on hate violence targeting Sikhs, and to ensure that the federal government was being responsive to the range of linguistic, immigration and psychological needs in the community here.

But more than anything, we knew that our responsibility was to keep telling the story of the Oak Creek community. My small part in ensuring that as many people as possible know about what has happened here has been through writing a book called We Too Sing America, a book which begins by centering Oak Creek in a chapter called “Not Your American Dream.” The chapter’s title is a reference to the powerful testimony that Harpreet Saini provided at a hearing in Congress months after his mother, Paramjit, was murdered at the Sikh gurdwara. The chapter goes on to document how community members, public officials, government employees, faith leaders, and non-profit advocates played their parts in creating the infrastructure to provide rapid response and long-term support to deal with a crisis of this magnitude.

But we must also remember that hate violence against South Asians – such as the massacre at the Sikh gurdwara four years ago – did not begin on August 5th, 2012. In fact, it has a long history. It is one that started in the early twentieth century when Sikh and Hindu migrant workers from India were excluded from becoming citizens and from owning land, as well as subjected to violence. The Bellingham riots in Washington. The Dotbusters in New Jersey. The attacks on people like Rishi Maharaj in Queens and Sandip Patel in Pittsburgh. The post 9/11 murders of Vasudev Patel and Balbir Singh Sodhi. These are all part of the history of South Asian America, and Oak Creek stands as the latest marker of mass violence targeting our people.

But, there is more to the story here in Oak Creek. You play a critical role in our unfolding community story by reminding us that love overcomes hate, that inclusion and understanding of each other prevents fear and suspicion, and that acts of solidarity sprout hope.

You see, what is so special about this community, is that you don’t give up. No, instead, you show up.

Through your words and actions, you show us all what it means to overcome, what it means to get up day after day and spread a message of love even with a deep hole in one’s heart, and what it means to be in solidarity with people who have suffered similar losses – from the extending of your embrace to American Muslims who face tremendous discrimination and violence even 15 years after 9/11, to recognizing the families who lost children in Newtown to holding a vigil at the Sikh gurdwara last year for the African Americans killed by a white supremacist in Charleston, South Carolina, to remembering the Latinx gay, lesbian, and transgender people killed in Orlando earlier this summer in today’s anniversary events here.


Credit: Lee Matz

So how do we each of us carry on the legacy of the Oak Creek community? I invite each of us to make a pledge today, to identify a way in which you will make a difference.

Perhaps it’s to share the story of the Oak Creek tragedy at the workplace. Perhaps it is to write a letter to the editor of your local newspaper about the importance of diversity and inclusion. If you are a student, organize a talk or forum on campus about hate violence. If you are a parent, inquire about the anti-bullying policy and teacher training on bias at your children’s school. Visit the Sikh Temple of Wisconsin. Call out racism and bigotry at gatherings of friends and your Facebook feeds. Ask local elected officials and government agencies about their preparedness to handle hate violence.

As Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr said in 1963, “[W]e are now faced with the urgency of now.” Four years after the tragedy at the Sikh gurdwara here, we should be even more focused on the urgency of the moment.

It is up to us to practice the spirit behind the words chardhi kala – to remain in grateful optimism while we continue to fight against hatred and bigotry. As we participate in this weekend’s anniversary events, let us do so in honor of the six people who lost their lives in an act of hate, and let us recommit individually to doing our part to create safer, more inclusive, and more loving communities.

If not us, who? If not now, when? And if not here in Oak Creek, where?

Thank you.


Credit: Pardeep Kaleka



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